Wedding Planning Tips for Flowergirls and Ring Bearers

So many brides (and especially those with younger siblings or children of their own) can’t help but fawn over the little dresses and tiny tuxes their flowergirls and ring bearers will wear, imagining the delighted sounds of their guests as these pint-sized sweethearts precede them down the aisle. Sometimes, however, the tiniest members of your wedding party can have the biggest impact, whether good or bad. Before you print your timelines and start shopping for outfits, read the list below to learn what you can expect from your flowergirl or ringbearer, and make your final, informed decision from there!

(Photographer: JoPhoto)

Keep your expectations age appropriate. “There’s nothing to it!”, several brides may assume about a simple walk down the aisle. And perhaps for an adult, this assumption is true. For a child in formal attire with hundreds of eyes on her, though, those twenty seconds of walking can easily become the stuff of nightmares.

(Photographer: Leah Moyers Photography)

As a rule of thumb, we advise our brides that children under the age of four are wildcards. Sure, almost anything they do will be cute, but you have to be prepared for any outcome. In the interest of working toward the best possible scenario, make sure that everyone has had a nap and a snack before the ceremony or any preliminary photography. Consider ditching any flower crowns, boutonnieres, or heavy signs to carry for children in this age range. Ensure that their clothing is as comfortable as possible in order to reduce any mid-ceremony crankiness that may arise. Similarly, you may want to have a little candy on hand in case they need a little persuasion, but stick to small, bite-sized pieces that don’t melt very fast—think Skittles, not a Hershey bar.

(Photographer: Sabrina Lafon)

Appoint a trusted adult to intervene if necessary. A mom, older sister, grandmother, or favorite aunt could be your processional’s saving grace if an unruly flowergirl or ring bearer sees her waiting at the back to cheer them on! Make sure that any of these ceremony saviors are well-dressed and prepared in the event that they have to walk down the aisle with the child. Furthermore, decide whether any children in your processional will realistically be able to stand still during the ceremony; there’s no harm in allowing these kids to take a well-deserved seat after their big moment.

(Photographer: Sabrina Lafon)

Do you have any other tips for having children in a wedding? Please share them with us, and we’ll be back next week!